It’s a question I hear alot lately “so when are you having the next one ? ” and my answer (and the other half’s) is always the same “one is more than enough” but recently I’ve been questioning my answer…
as corny as it sounds, for me Moonpie coming along was a little miracle after being told I couldn’t have children without fertility treatment and miracles don’t strike twice for my family. So even if down the line we decided to try for another baby, there’s a big possibility that it just won’t happen and I don’t know if I could go through all the hospital appointments again to be told the same thing or go through the treatments and have them not work.
Another reason why I feel so strongly about having anymore children is that just the thought of going through pregnancy, labour and the new born stage again makes me feel physically ill, I had such an awful time with all of that the first time I’m just not sure I could do it all again and get through it.
Having a baby puts alot of stress on a relationship and we have enough stress in our lives right now, plus babies aren’t cheap and we struggle enough now it would be extremely irresponsible of us to bring another life into the world when we can’t support it.
The plan has always been to get back into work once Moonpie is in nursery but if we did have another baby that plan would be pushed back to when they started nursery, I would be in my 30’s by then, most people are establishing careers in their 30’s not just getting back into the world of work, that does scare me a little.
But even with all those reasons I do wonder if I’m being selfish, I grew up with siblings and although most of the time we were fighting they are like your first friends.I worry that moonpie will grow up a little lonely, yes she has her cousins and I know that they will grow up close but it’s not the same as having a brother or sister to play with at home. But again is it really a good enough reason to have another child …. I just don’t think it is.
I don’t know, maybe at some point me and the other half will want another baby (I really doubt it) but right now our little Moonpie really is more than enough.